Wednesday, January 24, 2007

Seven Day Mile

This is going to be sappy...just a warning

This last Saturday night Jeff asked me to marry him.
And of course, I said yes.

Or rather, I screamed yes.
Along with quite a few "Oh my God!"s

The entire night was perfect.

Not because we went to all the right places (although we did)
Or because he said all the right things (although he did)

But because everything about the night was personalized, in some way connected to us, and reflected just how well he knows me.

A few years ago I took Jeff out for his birthday.
I took him to Gejas, a fondue restaurant in the city.
Afterwards I took him on a carriage ride and gave him a little book I had made of all the things I loved about him.

That night was the first night I told him I was falling in love with him.

Saturday night we revisited Gejas.
When we were finished he said he wanted to go to a bar he knew of close to his work.
We instead ended up at the horse-drawn carriages.

We got into the carriage and he said that he had recreated our evening from years ago.
I replied yes, and that I thought it was very sweet.

He then said that he had recreated something else.
And out of his jacket he pulled a handmade book of all the things he loved about me.


I immediately started to cry.

When I got to the end of the book I looked at him and he said, "It didn't all fit into one book" and he handed me a second book.

By the time I got to the end of the second book I could barely see, I was crying so much.

But I could make out him starting to move to get onto his knee.

And suddenly everything and nothing changed.

I don't remember even looking at the ring...just grabbing his face and screaming yes.
And the rest of the carriage ride is a blur.

We got out and Jeff announced to the driver that we were engaged to which the driver replied, "Yeah, I figured that's what was going on from all the screaming."

As I made a phonecall home to my parents and my sister I was too distracted to realize that Jeff was leading me somewhere else. Before I knew it we were in some strange building, getting on an elevator.

When the doors opened we were at a bar overlooking the city and Krissy and Pat were waiting there with champagne to celebrate.

I can't imagine a more perfect night.
Jeff nailed it. Which I've told him a thousand times since then.

The whole thing reminded me of how we got together in the first place.

Years ago I had gotten angry because I thought Jeff had been telling people we were together when we weren't.

I told him that he was not my boyfriend, that he better not be telling people that, and when it came down to it he didn't even really know me.

A few weeks later I received a package in the mail from him for my 21st birthday.

There was a copy of a story referenced in one of my favorite movies
There was a music review that he had written containing a private joke we had
And there was a cd he had made me with music I had never heard of

The cd had the most amazing music on it.

And as I sat looking at the package he had sent, I realized that even after I had given him the brush off he had still taken the time to send me something- and that the gift was the most personalized, thoughtful present I had ever received from someone.

This guy did know me.
Not only that, he was interested in getting to know me better, even after I had tried to shut the whole thing down.

I listened to the beautiful music and realized that this was in fact someone that I wanted to get to know better.

That was the beginning.

Years ago his thoughtfulness and creativity are what made me finally wake up and realize the possibilities of us together.

This last weekend those same qualities reaffirmed what I've known the entire time we've been together...that this is the man I am meant to spend the rest of my life with.

I'm just happy and blessed.


At 1:08 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

i couldn't remember my password after all this time.anyways, it was amazing to share in that night with both of you. mary just kept repeating "we're getting married, i mean we're really getting married!" and i just kept saying i know.the two of them walked in with puffy eyes and the biggest smiles i have ever seen on anyone.they were glowing. i love you both...congrats! mary- don't kill me but i emailed everyone that you blogged again! love- krissy

At 1:36 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Mary (and Jeff of course),

Congratulations! You are both VERY blessed to have found each other.

I heard the exciting news from your Mom on Saturday morning. But, it was great to hear it in your wonderful narrative style! Sounds like you are still floating on cloud nine. Enjoy!

Love you,
Aunt Jude

At 2:08 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

reading this brought back memories of sitting at my desk at work belly growing and feet hurting. your blog was the best part of my work day, I have missed it. again congrats, we are so so happy!! Rob and I can't wait to hear where you two will honeymoon!


At 5:53 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am so excited the blog is back (and thank you Krissy for letting me know!) I look forward to hearing all about the engagement and preparation since I can't be at home with you for it.

You two are abviously perfect for each other and I know NO ONE could possibly deny that! Congratulations!!! I am so excited for you two! I don't know two more amazing people (who better be coming to visit me before the wedding prep picks up!!!) I wish I were as good with words as you are to express my excitement, but I'm just an accounting major! So congratualations and I LOVE YOU TWO SO MUCH!!! ~Missy

At 9:46 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Congrats Mary, I wish you now as always all the happiness in the world.
- Sean Moran

At 1:35 PM, Anonymous Jay said...

For the little girl i grew up with... the one who hid in the laundry chute during Sardines (or whenever she was mad at me)... the one who raided the red box of dress-up clothes with me for years on end... the little girl who made haunted houses with me, set to Michael Jackson's "Thriller"... the little girl who helped cover up my mishaps until she followed me to hospital one very bad New Year's Eve... i couldn't be happier for you and Jeff. I am excited for you as you set out to plan a life together (not that there was any doubt that you would for those who saw you together). And way to go to Jeff for getting it so very, very right. I better bring the tissues to this wedding (ok, i bring them to every wedding, i guess!).
Congratulations, guys! You're gonna get married!! To each other!!


At 8:06 PM, Blogger Emily said...

Congratulations Mary! I'm so happy for you....reading your blog made me tear up...I must admit! I know I'm a bit removed from it all but I want you to know how happy I am for you. You deserve this kind of happiness! And I am overjoyed that you've found it.

At 1:02 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi Mary! Congratulations, what a beautiful proposal, it gave me shivers reading it, soooo romantic! I am so happy for you! Have a wonderful winter! Big hugs, Mariko

At 2:02 PM, Blogger Sabai said...

when bucktown told me the story, it centered around jeff's fear that the night wouldn't go like clockwork, and I laughed through most of it. your version had me tearing up. Congrats to you both!

At 8:18 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I just have one thing to say " I love the man who Loves my daughter- He is a wonderful human being "
I also wonder where they will go on the Honeymoon


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